How do you talk to someone who doesn’t understand where you’re coming from? Is the point that you need to push across that important? Maybe it is, and maybe it isn’t but I think many times, miscommunication is really a matter of pride and ego. Thank the stoics for their high objectivity, and their reminders of where to place the self in an argument or discussion. If one is misunderstood, where or what should one think or feel after? Should one reach compromise or settle at misunderstanding?
My thoughts is that the one being misunderstood needs to accept his misunderstood statements, and realize that the world might not ever understand him at his face value. Does this change the way that the world responds to him? It does not. But it does mean that he has no burden to carry towards the misunderstanding. He knows and expects it. He is understanding that the world will most probably misunderstand, unless he clearly explains himself. More than that, there is a necessity to explain himself clearly all the time, because of the expected misunderstanding.
But it doesn’t end there. He is more likely to get misunderstood all over again. Even though he is explaining more, and trying to make sense even more. That feeling and that processing is difficult, because the explanations themselves are misunderstood.
And that is where the misunderstood person needs to accept that no one will understand him completely, and its okay. For those that do understand, that’s a great plus point, and friendships can be forged over understanding. For those who don’t understand, that’s also great, because friendships can also be forged over misunderstanding. More time can be spent to help understand people, instead of understanding points.
This would be immensely more valuable, and honestly, it might help understanding.
Tag: stoic
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Miscommunication
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The End is Nearing.
Like really it is. 2020 has been a crazy year, by anyone’s measure. It doesn’t matter if you’ve been living under a rock, because at this point, I think the world is hoping that everyone does live under a rock. It would help to lower the rampant COVID numbers in the world. We had pegged so many things to this year, it was Olympics, it was having a whole range of activities, and like exciting climaxes, and yet, almost none of them took place. Where does that leave us? Are we okay, that almost nothing happened?
One key thing that I learnt to question: Why haven’t you done whatever you had aimed to do today? Do you actually think that you have any control over tomorrow? In that vein, why do you think you have tomorrow in the first place?
If anything I learnt, it was to work on whatever I could today. I don’t mean to say that my days were in tip top condition, that I was ultra productive. In fact, it was most probably the other way around instead. I found myself struggling to do anything because I felt that I wasn’t going to make a dent in the universe.
But that’s also a large learning, what can you, as a single person, do to make any dent in the world at all? We can’t make sense of it, and instead, we find ourselves two weeks behind on a workout plan. Maybe it even hit a few months since you cleaned up your house.
So why seize today if it doesn’t matter, or if it doesn’t change?
Because it does, eventually. Whether we liked it or not, we are at the end of 2020. Time moved ahead, even though we struggled to deal with it. If you haven’t exercised, then there’s a high chance that you’re in a different shape from how you started this year as. Seize today, because it might slip, and you would find that you wouldn’t stay still. You would continue to grow, and grow into a person that you might not like all that well.
Do something today, and not wait for tomorrow, because tomorrow might not have the same environment that today has. Don’t plan huge yearly plans that flop, but just make today count a little bit. No dents, but its that little push every day that gets the piano across the room.
That’s what I tell myself anyway.