I just read an article about a girl who was murdered by her mother and her mother’s boyfriend. Having a child now, it really just makes me so sick to my stomach. It’s not the first article I’ve read about child abuse, but it is so disgustingly sickening that I want to do something about it.
So I write this for it to be unearthed some day.
Parenting is being the adult. The adult doesn’t take advantage of a situation for their own benefit. When they do, we call that person a thief, or a robber. Someone who does something wrong for their own benefit.
Therefore, being the adult in a parenting situation means we educate with a good sense of how the person would learn best. And it’s definitely not through abuse. Reprimand is needed when moral or criminal wrong is done, like stealing, hurting, or abusing someone. So the parent teaches by showing how an ideal adult should behave, not being a hammer or cane themselves.
That is what the parents who have abused their children have done. They are tools. They’ve lost their humanity somewhere along the way, maybe because they were taught to be tools by their parents.
But it’s not about continuing the narrative to be a tool. It’s to stop it, and to change the narrative to bring humanity back again.
I don’t know which religion would bring any solving to this situation, but I know the Christian one does. But the solving I look at is for God to do something about the society we live in, for two human beings to consistently hurt a four year old child. I know something will be done some day. My job today is to talk about how to not to that.
I love my baby Allison so much, that her pain often feels like mine. Clarice feels really bad, but I feel like what I feel when I have pain: I want to get rid of the pain. So I think about how to relieve her pain, not about how to cause more pain instead.
Why would someone want to hurt their child, I really just don’t understand humanity, in so many ways. I am more bewildered day to day.
and I am absolutely upset.
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